THE OTHER SIDE OF GENDER ABUSE



In a first-of-its-kind event in the city, more than thirty husbands who have allegedly been harassed by their respective spouse shared their woeful stories at a meet organised by Victim Husbands Association of Telangana & AP, in Rezimental Bazaar, on Monday. President of the Association G Balaji conducted the meet for husbands from Hyderabad and other parts of the states, and chalked out a plan of action to redress their persistent grievances. 



A major concern for most of these husbands is false harassment cases filed against them by their wives and an unpleasant environment at home rendering mental disturbance and monetary problems. “There are many sections created for the protection of women when harassed by men (under Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005), but there is neither a section nor sympathy when we are harassed by our wives,” said Balaji.



“A section of women are taking advantage of the 498 (A) and blackmailing us,” he added. Balaji, who is also the founder of the Bharya Baditula Sangam, lamented, “I have lost property, cash and jewellery, which was taken over by my wife and her relatives and they drove me out from my house. I have no protection from government or police department as there is no provision for any sections in law to save men from these harassments.” 



Another concern for these husbands is unpleasant domestic environment at home like quarrelling, denying food and sex and demanding a life of high monetary standards are some of the concerns.P Sreenivas (46), resident of Motinagar, Borabanda, said, “My wife has given false complaints to police stating that I am harassing her. 



I lost my entire family in the past six years and I am living alone next to her room. She ignores her marital duties and I suspect she is having an illicit affair.” “She is simply threatening me by booking me under section 498 (A) of domestic violence and other maintenance cases,” he added.



Ray of hope?

 

Save Indian Family (SIF) movement, which has been working on the social cause of promoting family and marital harmony since 2005; has helped over 20 crore Indians since the past ten years by providing community counselling. The movement is 40+ NGOs strong which are non-funded, non-profit and non-commercial. The movement focuses primarily on suicides of males in India because of distress caused by misuse of various gender based laws.