Listen up, ladies! It might sound obvious, but you should date someone who makes you feel good about yourself. Yet all too often, women ignore off colour remarks or actions from a man because he’s good looking, charming, funny, or great in bed. Well, he can be all those things... and still be a jerk. Does he listen to you? Respect your feelings? Or does he flirt with your on Friday and ignore you on Saturday?
We’re trained to be attracted to meanness. The challenge is that what we tend to see first in a potential mate is confidence says a renowned psychologist. Women are often attracted to self assurance that they might pursue a relationship hoping a guys kindness will eventually kick in. As a result, you could find yourself with a man who’s assertive.. but also mean.
Plus, subtle A- hole behaviour can be intoxicating in the initial stages of dating. It can put you in a stage of anxious alertness or arousal, which may fuel the sense that you’re attracted to him. You get so caught up in trying to get into his mind that you stop thinking about how he’s making you feel.
A nice guy, by contrast, won’t take you on a rollercoaster ride. His actions will actually meet his words leaving you with a more even feeling inside. Says Robin, phD, author of the gaslight effect.
That said, we’ve all heard Oh he’s too nice as if it is a bad thing. Why is that part of our culture? We should all be so lucky to end up with someone who’s too nice. That would be a beautiful life.
She’s right. Nice and kind don’t have to equate boring. Nice is always not bland. It’s curious and interesting. It’s listening to you, treating you well, and making you feel valued and cared for. And study after study reveals that kindness is key to healthy and happy life.
When dating a nice guy, you’ll likely experience less anxiety and depression as well as greater sense of self and well-being. Says Robin.
So this is the most fundamental and straightforward rule to follow: seek out of kind partners and be kind to yourself. By doing so, you may wind up being in an even more delicious relationship than you could’ve imagined.
6 signs he may be a JERK
HE CANT NAIL DOWN ANY PLANS WITH YOU
HE DOES’NT SEEM TO LISTEN WHEN YOU TALK, OR HE CHANGES THE SUBJECT OFTEN
THE ONLY COMPLIMENTS HE DISHES OUT ARE BACKHANDED
HE GETS IRRITATED AND SNAPS EASILY
HE CANT BRING UP HIS EX WITHOUT INSULTING HER
HE WONT MEET YOUR FRIENDS.... AND DOES’NT ASK ABOUT THEM EITHER