There are three ways to approach the spiritual process. One way is, slowly by doing the right things through a few lifetimes, you will get there. Another way is, you remain in your present circumstances, keep yourself open and focused and make yourself available to your Guru, and when the last moment comes, he will take care of it. Another way is, you want to know life beyond its limitations now. You want to break your limitations now and go beyond.
Breaking your limitations
It is wonderful to have somebody who is ahead of me.’ If that much sense is there, fine. But if that much sense comes, then the relationship has to transform itself. Once you recognise that somebody is way ahead of you, that relationship cannot be husband and wife, or mother and son; it will become something else. So in some way, whatever you used to value will either physically broken or you will be living in the same space, but still it will change. How many people in the world are ready for that?
So the other two options are better for a lot of people, that you do the right things, be available to your Guru, and when the last moment comes, he will take care of it. Or you are not even willing to be available but you do a few little things; practice some kind of nourishment for yourself so that somewhere in the future, something will happen. I do not wish that for anyone. Either you must break your limitations now or at least in the moment of death it must happen.
Between you and the ultimate, there is nothing else but yourself – just your own mental structure. If you have to break that, we have to do something in reverse. This is a simple thing you can do: team up with somebody that you do not like. Spend time with that person, very lovingly, joyfully. A lot of things will break. But you always team up with somebody that you like – that is not good for you. If you choose something that you like, it strengthens your personality. Learn to do things that you do not like, be with people that you do not like, and still live your life sensibly, lovingly and joyfully. Everything will break.