Here’s why girl-boy friendships are beneficial
Even though adults are more aware of the notion that gender is a wide spectrum, children usually draw a bold line between the two For them, it is either a boy or a girl
Even though adults are more aware of the notion that gender is a wide spectrum, children usually draw a bold line between the two. For them, it is either a ‘boy’ or a ‘girl’.
However, according to a report published in CNN, girl-boy friendships matter. They give children a chance to explore themselves outside constrictive gender stereotypes and question them as well. A girl playing with a boy might feel free to be competitive, a trait that is normally associated with boys, while a boy, playing with girls may feel free to be talkative and emotional.
A child, questioning his or her gender, might feel free to explore part of him, her or themselves that culture forces them to bury. Furthermore, these friendships allow children to prepare for adulthood, during which period, they will work alongside, and might even be romantically inclined to another gender. The friendships allow children to see the complexity of humanity.
Children who have grown up with strong demarcations between the two genders might have a tough time seeing and accepting them.
Often, children resist girl-boy play because they feel boys are hardwired to play like boys and girls should play like girls. However, as with all issues related to sex and gender, the research is both extensive and controversial and finds that while there are a handful of traits that are more common in boys, and another handful that are more common in girls, few individuals are pure "boy" or "girl."
Speaking about it to the media organisation, David Walsh, a psychologist and author says, “The differences [discovered by gender researchers] are generalisations. But on an individual basis, there is a tremendous amount of overlap [between girls and boys].”
Practically speaking, there are a lot of benefits to girl-boy friendships that will help them as they grow up. According to Rachel Simmons, author of ‘Enough as She Is’, exposing youngsters to different ways of conflict resolution helps them to learn to move freely between the two.
Another advantage to girl-boy friendships is the way they give boys a chance to talk about their feelings.
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