COIMBATORE: Veerasekar, one of the few openly gay people in the city, heaved a huge sigh of relief when the Supreme Court struck down Section 377 and decriminalized “unnatural sex”. “We now have a legal right to tell a policeman not to invade our privacy and that we are not doing anything ‘wrong’ or against the law,” said the man who hails from Karaikudi.
“I have nothing to fear now” : The journey of a gay man discovering his sexuality
Veerasekar realized he had a liking towards boys even when he was a Class IV student in a government school. “It was not sexual, but I wanted to impress them and be liked by them. In class, I and another boy were mutually attracted to each other, and he even kissed me. But before we started maturing, the boy left school. From Class IX, I accepted the fact that I was attracted to boys. I also got into a relationship with another boy in my school,” he said. “But I was always scared that I was a freak. I was scared that my boyfriend and I were the only different or weird people in the world. I even thought we had a scary disease,” he added. “I felt like I was living in confinement.”
“My family realized it too, but ignored it believing it was just a phase.” It was when he was pursuing his post-graduation and he lost his mother that he confided it to one of his closest aunts. “She shockingly accepted me. Then I began sensitizing my sisters and other aunts, through movies and books and slowly confided to them. They too accepted me,” he said. “Now they have to be less concerned about me. The world has now become an oyster, where I don’t have to hide and have nothing to fear.” he added.