I can't stop daydreaming
I 'm just starting in high school and my thoughts and urges about girls are getting really hard to control. I find myself getting distracted in class...
I 'm just starting in high school and my thoughts and urges about girls are getting really hard to control. I find myself getting distracted in class because I'm daydreaming about the girls in my class. I feel ashamed and guilty. What can I do to focus on academics?Sexual attractions and related thoughts are very common in puberty. At this age, there will be heavy fluctuations in hormones in body. They start raging at this age, take a bit of time to settle down. Many teenagers struggle with feelings of guilt, low self-esteem, confusion, a lack of interest in 'normal' teenage activities, such as improving academic knowledge, participating and competing in sport and culture. According to Robert Rector, 'Compared to teens who are not sexually active, teenage boys and girls who are sexually active are significantly less likely to be happy and more likely to feel depressed and attempt suicide'. First you have to understand that it is not abnormal and many boys and girls experience the same at your age. Hence, it is unnecessary to feel shame or guilty. Don't frustrate yourself over such thoughts. Remember that everyone else thinks about it. What matters is that you can still go on with your daily life without letting something bother you. However, avoid things that stimulate such thoughts. Do not view pornography or read explicit books. Develop strong determination and will power to say no to such thoughts. Pay attention to your thoughts to see whether there are specific objects, settings or people that evoke a sexual response in you, and avoid them as much as possible. Engage your body in sports or physical exercise. Keep your body busy and active so that you don't feel physically frustrated. Involve yourself in creative hobbies like music, dancing. Don't keep too much idle time in your daily schedule. Meditate and stay relaxed.
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