No mistakes, only lessons

Growth is a process of trial and error experimentation. The key to achieve success is trusting and loving yourself "Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy." - Norman Vincent Peale When people point out your mistakes, irrationally, do you suffer silently? Do you feel that people find you boring to talk to? When someone criticises, do you feel that you can't help because you are incompetent? Do you constantly feer that people dislike you? If your answer is 'yes', to any of these questions, you need to practice to love yourself and develop self-esteem so as get people love you. Self-esteem is a person's overall sense of self-worth or personal value. Self-esteem is often seen as a personality trait, which means that it tends to be stable and enduring. Self-esteem can involve a variety of beliefs about self, such as the appraisal of one's own appearance, beliefs, emotions and behaviours. Self-esteem is an essential human need that is vital for survival and necessary for normal and healthy development.

As human beings we learn everything through lessons. We are not born learners like a fish which can swim, a bird that can fly, and a tiger that can chase. While learning, we are likely to commit mistakes, but we must realise that there are no mistakes, only lessons to be learnt. Growth is a process of trial and error experimentation. The experiences that we label as failures are the real lessons to be learnt to achieve success. The key to achieve success is having trust in yourself and loving yourself. This is what life is about - as long as there is life, there are lessons. Thomas Jefferson's ten Rules for the Good Life 1. Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today. 2. Never trouble another for what you can do yourself. 3. Never spend your money before you have it. 4. Never buy what you do not want because it is cheap; it will never be dear to you. 5. Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst, and cold. 6. Never repent of having eaten too little. 7. Nothing is troublesome that we do willingly. 8. Don't let the evils which have never happened cost you pain. 9. Always take things by their smooth handle. 10. When angry, count to ten before you speak; if very angry, count to one hundred. Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent � Eleanor Roosevelt. My Declaration of Self Esteem I am me. I am unique. There's not another human being in the whole world like me � I have my very own fingerprints and I have my very own thoughts I own all of me -- my body, and I can do with it what I choose; my mind, and all of its thoughts and ideas; my feelings, whether joyful or painful. I own my ideals, my dreams, my hopes, my fantasies, my fears. I reserve the right to think and feel differently from others and will grant to others their right to thoughts and feelings not identical with my own. I own all my triumphs and successes. I own also all my failures and mistakes. I am the cause of what I do and am responsible for my own behaviour. I will permit myself to be imperfect. When I make mistakes or fail, I will know that I am not the failure -- I am still O.K. I will discard some parts of me that were unfitting and will try new ways. I will laugh freely and loudly at myself -- a healthy self-affirmation. I will have fun living inside my skin. I will remember that the door to everybody's life needs this sign: Honour Thyself I have value and worth. I am me, and I am O.K. (Adapted from Self Esteem by Virginia Satir)