The only reason why you cannot involve yourself and throw yourself into every situation that happens in your life is because you are so deeply identified – you have become like a vested interest. Your involvement questions and threatens who and what you are, so if a situation is not going the way you think it should be going, your very identity is threatened; it becomes a very insecure and fearful situation for you. Once you go through this experience, your whole sense of involvement will come down; you become subdued, less involved with life. You can truly involve yourself with life only when you are not identified with it. That goes both for thought and the situations in which we live.
For example, suppose something happened to one of your loved ones, if you are not identified with it, you will do everything to the best of your ability. Your love and affection are not gone just because you are not identified. But if you are identified with the situation, you will not sleep, eat, or do the things that you could have done properly. So, if your situations are such that something wrong has happened to the people around you and they need you at that time, which is the best way to be – to retain all your faculties and capabilities or to lose them?
It is just that all the ignorant people have always made you believe that if somebody near and dear to you is sick or dead, you must be broken and incapacitated otherwise you do not love them. It is not true. Love does not mean incapacitation. If you are broken, you are broken simply because you are identified, not because you are involved. Love is a capability, love is an involvement, love is a commitment.