In the last about 50 years or more, it has been increasingly realised by the medical professionals that many ailments are caused by stress or trauma resulting in more and more deaths. Isn’t it surprising that a few years back, something like stress, about which we were not so serious, has today become a part of our everyday life. Although we all talk about stress, it often isn’t clear as to what stress is really about.

Many people feel that stress is something that happens to them during an event such as physical injury, emotional heart break or some family feud etc. Some people say that stress is a feeling experienced by our mind & body in response to an event like a terror attack, rail accident or a plane crash . However, experts believe that, while stress does involve events and our response to them, these are not the most important factors causing it. Our thoughts about the situations in which we find ourselves are more critical compared to other reasons mentioned above. We need to understand that when something happens to us, we automatically evaluate the situation mentally and decide if it is really threatening to us, how we need to deal with the situation, and what skills we can use. So, if we feel that the demands of the situation outweigh the skills we have, then we treat the situation as stressful. On the other hand, if we feel that our coping skills outweigh the demands of the situation, then we don’t see it as stressful.

According to psychologists, stress in small quantities is good and at times necessary, because it motivates a person & helps him/her to become more productive. However, an excess of it, or a strong response to it can be fatal. Hence, the way in which we deal with a stress provoking event would determine its impact on our health. The basic idea is to understand ourselves and our reaction towards stressful events thereby learning to handle them more effectively. One should understand that stress management is not about avoiding or escaping the pressures and turbulence of modern living, NO! In actual sense it is about learning to appreciate how the body reacts to external pressures, and develop skills which enhance the body’s adjustment.

The Gita states that man can be his own best friend or his own worst enemy. But in order to be my best friend, I have to spend time with myself. I have to learn to love and respect myself so that I can love others and respect them as well. The only time to do that is to spend time with myself. By getting to know myself and to watch what is going on in my mind, I need to gently push the mind back on the right track. If during the day, I allow my mind to be negative or to have waste thoughts, it would be a difficult task and I would struggle to do meditation. Yet, if during the day, I threw out the waste stuff which is of no use to me and just made sure my thoughts are good and positive, it’ll be that much easier to have that elevated experience. Alas, it is not sufficient to just read about it. Just get up & start meditating today!

(Writer is a spiritual educator and popular columnist for publications across India, Nepal & UK. Till Date 9000+ Published Columns have been written by Him.)