Sad people to help sad people- Corporate leadership message
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Often people look for sad and melancholy people especially when they are sad and depressed. More often than not, people say why I alone suffer like this or why I alone have so much of problem?
Often people look for sad and melancholy people especially when they are sad and depressed. More often than not, people say why I alone suffer like this or why I alone have so much of problem?
In brief, sad people want the company of other sad people. When one is sad, should he or she looking for solution to the problem or another person who is also equally sad as him or her to satisfy with the company?
Whether one accepts it or not, human mind has great appetite for pleasure and enjoyment than solutions. Some time even a solution can also become problem to human being. When one is sad, he or she cannot see a happy person. When they see a happy person, they become sad, all of a sudden.
Quite contrary to this, when they see a sad person, they find pleasure in him or her as they got a company. Or in other word, when they see yet another sad person, they feel that one more person is also suffering from problems like him/her and hence he or she is not alone.
Can a sad person able to help another sad person? Is it not true, when two sad people meet and discuss about their problem, the ‘problem discussion’ only will increase their sadness by several folds. By doing so, are they not moving from ‘sad pond’ to ‘ocean of sadness’?
When they constantly invite and be with more and more sad people, they will be creating only a perfect ecosystem and issuing ‘green card’ to the sadness. Once such ecosystem is created, they do everything possible to conserve and preserve the ecosystem of sadness.
The mind seeking ‘company of sad people’ or ‘the mind that derives happiness from sad people’ influences the human behaviour? When one suffer from a problem, why they look for ‘company’ and or ‘happiness’ rather than solution. The reason being, human mind is ‘pleasure’ and or ‘fear’ dominant by birth. His inborn fear compels him to look for company.
His pleasure dominant mind looks for another sad person to derive some pleasure. The above statement may appear ‘cruel’ and ‘barbaric’ but that is the truth. The painful aspect of human mind is that it never loves to see or accept truth. The mind always wants the lie to be true and truth to be lie. What it really wants to see?
One needs to ask questions to oneself. Train and tame your mind to become solution focused and success oriented.
When you are sad, do not look for who can understand your sadness better, but see who can help you with solution. By having people around you to understand your problems better and better, you can only establish the existence of the ‘sadness’ to be true, genuine and it will make you further sad. The above situation is true with corporate employees.
Usually the sad people in most corporate form a group or an association just to discuss about their problem and its intensity. Each one will be competing to share their sadness about their boss or with peer group. In the competition, they will be trying to prove who the saddest person in the group and thereby they derive some pleasure. Unless one understands the mind and its fooling ability, one cannot get out of such state.
Dr S Ranganathan
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