Trust is the bond I share

Parenting is an art. Dinaz Vervatwala, the popular fitness guru talks about the bond she shared with her parents and the upbringing she gives to her two children. My advice to parents of this generation is that do not express your love by giving them lots of chocolates and junk food. Our kids follow us, so we have to be their role models in every aspect. Giving those gifts andA taking them to Mc Donalds and KFCs is not love at all. Real love is when we understand their emotions and thoughts they undergo My mother, Shiren Muncherji, gave me love, affection and all the freedom in the world. When we trust and give freedom to our children they tend not to opt for the wrong path.A My father Hozhi MuncherjiA passed away when I was young. Being a single mother, she raised me and my siblings in such a way that it is now an inspiration for me on how I should raise my children. She was a little strict but not to an extent where I was scared of her and at the same time I was a good child and I was never a source of her worry." My husband and I raised my children, Yohan and Zeeshan, who are currently studying in Sacred Heart's high school, in such a way that they are not materialistic. They are not attached to gadgets or anything materialistic. They do not fear peer pressure. When they were too young, we protected them much more than necessary. I never let them go alone anywhere. I always sent my driver along. But now, they travel by public transport. They have all the freedom and liberty to go anywhere and everywhere on their own. I always accompany my sons in their sports activities. I read so that they also have the urge to read.A Children are exact replica of parents. They imitate what their parents do. So, we should always watch our actions such that we do not mislead our kids. I make sure not to nag them to do something. Being a fitness guru, the point I would like to add is "be fit so that, your children are also inspired to be fit." Parents should never be full of themselves. We should understand their interests and allow them to do what interests them. My younger son is fond of music. I also started listening to music along with him. This had a great impact on him. His interest for music grew along with our friendship. To be the best parents, we first try to be best friends with our children. When I was seven years old, a group picture was clicked during my thread ceremony function. My parents were standing around me. I love that moment and also the picture as it is the only picture where both my parents are present. There are many good moments I share with my kids. The moments when my kids come to my office to take me home are the best ones. They feel bad that I work hard for long hours. They understand my work pressure and never complain about not being around all day long. I love spending time with them in the evenings after I go back home from office.

My advice to parents of this generation is that do not express your love by giving them lots of chocolates and junk food. Our kids follow us, so we have to be their role models in every aspect. Giving those gifts and taking them to Mc Donalds and KFCs is not love at all. Real love is when we understand their emotions and thoughts they undergo. (As told to Purnima Sriram)