2 Things To Boost Up Your Sexual Confidence

Curvy, slim, athletic, bootylicious, perfect for Instagram! No matter what type of body you have, we all appear to be a little shy, insecure or unconfident when it comes to sexual desire. So what can you do to improve your confidence and ensure you enjoy the experience? Ok, with all the shortcomings, sexual trust is connected to your overall confidence and that starts with embracing yourself. So stay tuned

Loving your body The first thing you need to do is stand in front of the mirror and have a thorough look at yourself. See the lines, the cellulite, the wrinkles, the scars and the freckles. Then take a deep breath and say, "Wow, I've got lots of stories to tell about each!"

Our bodies are our books with so many stories that to reduce them to just a shape is rather dismissive. When I look at my body, which is covered with stretch marks, I think, 'Yes, I did try a lot of times to lose weight. And every time it gets harder, I am still pushing through! And damn, I should have carried sunscreen for that Goa vacation because I don't love those freckles on my face.'

Touch And Learn That's right; you have to masturbate to learn what you like, what's making you high, where you want to be handled exactly. This is because we all have our sexual preferences which change from time to time and from partner to partner. So stay ahead of the game, fantasize and do something for yourself!

See what you feel, how you want to be at those times, how you want to move it forward, quick and hard or slow and gentle, and remember to express these to your partner as and when necessary. You could also try to read about race, sex and fetish positions. You may be surprised to find you like the items that have been listed out there.

Stop Faking Orgasms

A lot of times, women fake orgasms. It could be because you are afraid of hurting your partner or you aren't enjoying the action, but don't know how to say it. We all have been there, so don't worry! The problem with this is that when you are faking orgasms, you are not allowing your partner to give you one. You will never learn what you genuinely like or what your partner needs to do to make sure you have a mind-blowing orgasm.

Besides, sex isn't just about intercourse; it is also about understanding your partner's likes and dislikes and the longer you fake orgasms, the more likely you are not to attain your ultimate sexual prowess. So stop faking orgasms!

Instead, communicate to your partner all the things you would like to do in bed and all the things you don't want to experiment with.

Counselling

Growing up in India where sex is a tabu until you have a ring on your finger or mangal sutra on your arm, I have always felt uncomfortable with the idea of intimacy. Sure, women are sexual beings, therefore, we should have sex! That was something I could never really imbibe or practice on my own. This was when I went to counseling.

Sometimes accepting ourselves for who we truly are, in bed and otherwise might need a helping hand. A good counsellor can help you with pushing through some of the barriers that you have subconsciously created for yourself so that you can go on to have a wonderful life, sexually and otherwise.