Skills for a happy relationship

Skills for a happy relationship

Skills for a happy relationship


Being in a relationship has its perks: you always have a designated cuddle buddy and someone to talk to about the Game of Thrones. But knowing that a...

Being in a relationship has its perks: you always have a designated cuddle buddy and someone to talk to about the Game of Thrones. But knowing that a relationship is only as stable and healthy as the people in it, you've made it your goal to #lovebetter this time around.

The thing is, even if you consider yourself a healthy partner there's always room for improvement! Since 100% of us aren't perfect and will either be in an unhealthy relationship or do unhealthy things, we wanted to share a few life hacks that will help you #lovebetter. Here are the top 5 skills to build a happy relationship


Sometimes, arguments reach a stalemate because neither partner is willing to listen to what the other is saying. But listening to one another and trying to understand how each other is feeling doesn't mean changing your own ideas or even necessarily admitting you're wrong, it just means showing you partner you care about how they're feeling and that you're willing to make the effort to meet in the middle if necessary. Even if you've known your partner a long time, try to step into their shoes and recognize that they may see some things differently to you.


It's an obvious one, but bears repeating: communication is one of the most important skills in any relationship. Being able to clearly and consistently state how you're feeling will mean that those little niggles that might otherwise develop into something worse can be resolved early on. If you want to know how to communicate better, you might like to read our top three tips on communicating with your partner. It also worth remembering that communicating doesn't just mean being able to make your own point well, but learning to listen to what your partner's saying too. Try to employ 'active listening' when you're talking together. Don't just wait for your turn to speak, but really listen to what they're saying. Repeat what they're saying back to them. And ask them to clarify things – don't always assume you know what they mean immediately.


People often think of arguing as inherently bad, but if there's no conflict whatsoever in your relationship, there's a good chance someone's holding something back. Differences between you and your partner are pretty much inevitable – it's how you deal with those differences that counts. Sometimes, it's a case of trying to argue better. Try to use a 'soft' start that focusses on your feelings instead of attacking your partner – so, 'I'm so upset you forgot our anniversary', rather than 'how could you be so insensitive, you didn't even get a card!'. Try to avoid letting things spin out of control: don't say things you'll regret later or just trade insults. And be prepared to be forgiving: it's only when both partners are willing to let go of their desire to 'win' the argument that it can actually end.


In a long-term relationship, commitment means being willing to work on difficulties together, planning for the future together and clarifying and protecting the boundaries you've agreed on. This takes persistence and hard work – but the rewards are more than worth it. And in the short term, it can also mean committing from moment to moment. Even if you're on a first date with someone, it's important you're able to give things your full attention and show interest instead of wondering what else you could be doing or letting your mind get clouded over with doubts.


The Ancient Greeks had 3 words for love.

Eros: This is erotic love. It means being attracted to each other. It's the spark that makes your relationship feel exciting and special.

Philios: This means friendship. It's the feeling of understanding one another, enjoying each other's company and having shared interests.

Agape: This means being prepared to go out of your way for the other person or put them first. It might be something small like helping them with a task even though you're really tired or something big like caring for them after surgery.

A relationship with all three of the above will thrive. But if any one of them is lacking, you might find things more challenging. That doesn't mean you can't get there, but it might be worth thinking about ways you could focus more on what's missing. If you think you might need help with this – or any of the other relationship skills listed on this page – you might like to try Relationship Counselling.

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